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- What Happens When Women Stop Leading Like Men - The New York Times
- Voices for Children organization invites men to volunteer for CASA - Bryan-College Station Eagle
- We Need To Talk More About Older People's Sex Lives—Here's Why - mindbodygreen.com
| What Happens When Women Stop Leading Like Men - The New York Times Posted: 30 Mar 2019 11:44 AM PDT  It has been another bad inning for male leadership. Besides the hourly flatulence of Trumpian twitterings and the addition of Brazil's Bolsonaro to the confederacy of bullyboy power, we have been treated to a second wave of masculine mayhem. The reputations of the Patriots owner Robert Kraft, R. Kelly, the philanthropist Michael Steinhardt and even the sainted co-founder of the Southern Poverty Law Center, Morris Dees, are the latest to circle the drain. As Harvard's Cornel West recently observed to Anderson Cooper, "The brothers are just out of control." Can women save the world? A ripped Captain Marvel can rescue us from intergalactic enemies, but down here on planet Earth a new paradigm of female leadership is emerging. A year ago, Prime Minister Jacinda Ardern of New Zealand was famous for being a world leader who gave birth while in office. Then came the slaughter in the Christchurch mosques and overnight the gravitas in her angular face beneath a hijab became an iconic image of global humanity. As women across New Zealand emulated her gesture of solidarity by donning head scarves, the Arab world took note. A portrait of Ms. Ardern was projected across the world's tallest building, Dubai's Burj Khalifa, with the word "Peace" emblazoned above it in English and Arabic. Countries from Georgia to Ethiopia have recently elected their first female presidents. Women now lead industries where once the thin air was inhaled only by men. For the first time, women have the top jobs at the New York Stock Exchange and at Nasdaq. With the ascension of Kathy Warden to C.E.O. of Northrop Grumman in January, four out of five of America's biggest defense companies are run by women. Chicago is about to get its first black female mayor, and the Democratic leading light Stacey Abrams just drew a line in the sand when she squelched the idea of running for vice president with the crisp rejoinder, "You don't run for second place." Image  Among the 42 new women sworn into Congress, young rock stars like Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez electrify all of us with their passion and verve, but it's Nancy Pelosi — mother of five, grandmother of nine — who knows how to make the tangerine toddler in the White House eat his spinach. It's salutatory to watch her corral her rebellious Democratic brood with committee treats and pacifying timeouts. "Be calm. Take a deep breath. Don't become like them," she told her angry caucus in an emotional post-Mueller strategy session. I don't contend that women are naturally and invariably better at running governments than men. Witness the dismal sight of Theresa May stumbling on the glass cliffs of Dover last week as, for a third time, her Brexit deal went down in defeat. Yes, the British prime minister may have been better destined to be deputy headmistress of a girls' school in some provincial city like Salisbury, measuring the length of her pupils' skirts with a ruler. But the 13 Tory grandees — all male, all white — who descended on Chequers to browbeat Mrs. May yet again this month were described by a bitter London Remainer friend of mine as "bogus patriots in crumpled suits and yesterday's underpants, loving the sound of their own voices." Plus Mrs. May found herself in No. 10 Downing Street only because these same feckless upper-class men decided to kiss off the European Union without a clue how to achieve it. At a minimum, we can at least argue that women are afflicted by what Hillary Clinton, who has spent a lifetime with someone who lacks it, once called "the responsibility gene." I can bet a bucket of Bitcoins that we'll never learn that any of the four married women plausibly seeking the Democratic presidential nomination are secretly sexting pictures of parts of their anatomy to a boyfriend. But there is a deep lesson here. During thousands of years of civilization, women have evolved to deal with the intractable perplexities of life and find means of peaceful coexistence where men have traditionally found roads to conflict. Women have accumulated rich ways of knowing that until recently were dismissed in male circles of power. The alchemy of what has made women the way they are is mysterious: Is it a result of centuries spent trying to survive and prosper in societies where they've been viewed as lesser? Or, until recently, of always being appointed the family caregiver, bearing and raising children, tending to elderly parents and disabled siblings, so often left to shoulder the unpaid burdens of real life? Women have learned and taught lessons about how to cope with seeming impossibilities in ways that men traditionally — and to this day — have not. Coaching a slow learner on homework after a day of hassles at the office provides a deep experience of delayed gratification. A woman's wisdom comes, in part, from the great juggle of her life. Until very recently, that kind of wisdom was banished to folkways or deprecated as secondary. But as women step into their new roles, the value of that wisdom is beginning to emerge in unexpected ways. Sometimes, it's a viral cultural moment that reminds us. Who will forget the image of the stoically seated CBS anchor Gayle King intoning in a soothing tone "Robert, Robert" to a flailing, weeping, lying R. Kelly? It's past time for women to stop trying to cram themselves into outdated NASA spacesuits designed for an alien masculine physique. Salvation doesn't lie in pursuing traditional male paths of ejaculatory self-elevation. In drawing on women's wisdom without apology and pushing that wisdom forward into positions of power, we can soothe our world and, maybe, even save it. Tina Brown is the founder of the Women in the World summit and the host of the podcast "TBD With Tina Brown." The Times is committed to publishing a diversity of letters to the editor. We'd like to hear what you think about this or any of our articles. Here are some tips. And here's our email: letters@nytimes.com. Follow The New York Times Opinion section on Facebook, Twitter (@NYTopinion) and Instagram.  |
| Voices for Children organization invites men to volunteer for CASA - Bryan-College Station Eagle Posted: 30 Mar 2019 10:11 PM PDT  Voices For Children is seeking men to volunteer as Count Appointed Special Advocates. As part of their effort to increase male volunteer participation, the organization will host a Beer, BBQ & CASA Event at Blackwater Draw Brewing Company in Downtown Bryan on Friday from 7 to 9 p.m. According to events and outreach manager Lindsey Woods, 29 of Voices For Children's 128 current CASA volunteers are men. "It is a volunteer recruitment event geared toward men," Woods said of Friday's gathering. "We currently have far fewer men volunteers than women, and we are trying to close that gap, as half the children we serve are boys." Voices for Children's CASAs work about 15 hours per month and serve as advocates for abused and neglected children and teenagers within and beyond the court system. "We are specifically looking to increase our number of male CASA volunteers so that the children we serve are given every opportunity to connect with an adult who can fight for them," Woods said. Voices for Children operates in Brazos, Burleson, Grimes, Madison and Leon counties. It is a member of the National Court Appointed Special Advocate Association, a nationwide network of programs in nearly 1,000 communities. For more information, call the office at 979-822-9700 or email Lindsey Woods at lwoods@vfcbrazos.org.  |
| We Need To Talk More About Older People's Sex Lives—Here's Why - mindbodygreen.com Posted: 30 Mar 2019 02:00 AM PDT  Researchers analyzed health and lifestyle data on over 3,000 people between ages 55 and 74, in addition to interviewing them in person to get a sense of what their sex lives were like and what factors affected it. They found 54 percent of women and 62 percent of men were sexually active in the past six months, and 42 percent of men and women reported being satisfied with their sex lives. What separated people with happy sex lives from those with less fulfilling ones? Some findings were fairly obvious: The folks who had been having sex were more likely to say they were happy with their sex lives, and people in steady relationships were way more likely to be having sex and to be sexually satisfied, as were people who reported being in good health. Indeed, 27 percent of men and 17 percent of women reported having a health condition that impaired their sex lives. The most important finding? Older people who had support from others regarding their sex life were much more likely to be sexually active (and thus satisfied). For men, being able to use medication to boost their sex life made a big difference. For women, "finding it easy to talk to their regular partner about sex" made them more likely to have it. For both men and women, seeking advice and getting help regarding their sex life also tended to boost their sexual activity—yet just one in four had actually done so. "We identified that not many people who reported experiencing problems or lack of satisfaction sought help," said Bob Erens, lead author of the study and a researcher and professor with the London School of Hygiene & Tropical Medicine, in a news release. "Although this could be an individual choice or because of a perceived lack of support, it is vital that individuals feel able to make enquiries with health care professionals. In particular, discussing problems can often lead to identification of underlying medical conditions."  |
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