Have we gotten too picky? | Local News I Racine County Eye - Racine, Wisconsin - Racine County Eye
Have we gotten too picky? | Local News I Racine County Eye - Racine, Wisconsin - Racine County Eye |
- Have we gotten too picky? | Local News I Racine County Eye - Racine, Wisconsin - Racine County Eye
- Successful Singles Matches Mature Daters With Compatible Partners - DatingNews
- Dating app, text messages fuel Day 1 of Clay Conaway rape trial - The News Journal
| Have we gotten too picky? | Local News I Racine County Eye - Racine, Wisconsin - Racine County Eye Posted: 16 Sep 2019 06:35 AM PDT  This blog is for those of you who are using dating apps to find love. And those who aren't, let me share some stories. This past week, I thought I would join another online app to see some new people come through my matches. I have been on Bumble for about a year, and in this time, I've met some terrific men. Sadly, none of them turned into anything more than friendship-both my doing and theirs, or mutually. In this new app, it appeared to have a lot more potential dates and a decent quality of men. I was surprised that scammers have still figured out a way to sneak through the cracks. It's almost funny-they start with a compliment about your amazing smile, and then profess love-will move anywhere to be with you and once you start engaging with them, their stories don't match up. I've often wondered who does this and what they get out of it. Clearly someone with too much time on their hands. So, while I am scrolling through the choices, it occurs to me that quantity may not work in our favor. It's like ice cream. Years ago, there were maybe 12 different flavors. We were all satisfied with what was offered, but now, with 30+ flavors at our disposal, it becomes confusing. And even more so, difficult to decide. Imagine the burden of choosing someone to date and perhaps even make an emotional investment with? The same holds true for these dating apps. Each day, one gets a new slew of potential paramours and as time goes on, the freshest one feels the most interesting. Mind you, only 3-5 days have passed and the original choices-who you may be corresponding with-seem passé. We all want the shiniest, newest, brightest and biggest Christmas ornament-why would it be any different in online dating? The point to my babbling on is that we may all be doing ourselves a disservice by constantly looking at these apps. Okay, yes, it's human nature to be inquisitive to see who "shows" up, but what happened to the fine art of time-tested dating-spending time conversing and getting to know someone before moving on to the next shiny ball? Do YOU find yourself hooked on dating sites? Please share your story!
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| Successful Singles Matches Mature Daters With Compatible Partners - DatingNews Posted: 16 Sep 2019 06:26 AM PDT Though most singles in their 20s and 30s are on dating apps, many singles over 50 aren't sure how to navigate this modern dating scene. Further, they're often looking for lasting relationships — not just a series of dates. Research from Michigan State University shows that couples who meet through online and mobile dating are 28% less likely to stay together long term. This is just one of the many reasons why many mature, selective singles in New England turn to Successful Singles, a long-standing matchmaking service that has a clientele of nearly 90% baby boomers.  Successful Singles is a matchmaking service that helps single seniors find personal connections. Ron Cater founded the business in 1984 — long before online dating was even an idea — to connect local singles in a more personalized way. Over the last 35 years, he has continued working with the same generation of singles as many found compatible partners and had successful relationships. Ron and his Senior Matchmaker, Roberta Diamond, said one of the primary benefits Successful Singles offers over online dating is a thorough screening of clients, and he ensures that all of his clients are looking for the same thing: lasting love. "People are pleased with the caliber of people that we have, the screening that we do, and that 100% of our clients are looking for long-term relationships," he told us. Men and Women are Turning to Professional Matchmakers Instead of Online DatingA significant percentage of Successful Singles clients have tried online dating before turning to the matchmaking service. "About 70% of our clients have used online services. But they often feel frustrated with online dating, which is why they come to us," Ron said. Other clients didn't even attempt online dating because they were worried that they wouldn't find anyone compatible, especially at their age. Or they fear that potential mates wouldn't be honest about themselves.  Ron Cater founded Successful Singles in 1984 to match singles in New England. Those difficulties often lead singles from that generation to turn to matchmakers. In their region, Ron and Roberta have seen matchmaking flourish even as online dating is gaining in popularity. Daters, especially in New England, still appreciate the personalized touch a matchmaker can provide. Successful Singles provides daters with access to an elite pool of potential mates. Many of the singles are professionals, and all of them are non-smokers. They all undergo criminal background checks and are thoroughly interviewed, so a person — not an algorithm — pairs suitable matches. "Our clients are more serious-minded than what one would find online," Roberta said. "They like knowing that people are who they say they are." Those services are especially useful to clients who have grown disillusioned with finding dates through other mediums. That peace of mind allows clients to relax and takes the pressure off their first dates. A Personalized Process Meets Your Unique NeedsSuccessful Singles is selective about clients who it believes it can help find partners.That means the matchmaking service has a more exclusive list of singles, which ensures that each client has a personalized experience. Ron shared a story about two clients he recently paired. A member was hesitant about meeting one of her matches — a man who she thought was too tall and lived too far away. But Ron insisted they would be compatible. Eventually, she agreed to meet him and Roberta — and it turned out they all hit it off. They recently dropped Ron and Roberta a thank-you note after a month-long trip they took to Europe. Ron said that's why other singles should try to be more open to possibilities, and he encourages them to stay optimistic in their search because so many compatible daters are out there looking for the same things. He also advises clients to prioritize finding a partner and building a relationship. "You have to put yourself in a situation where you can meet people who are single and available," Ron said. "Connect with others who desire a good, healthy relationship. If you're open-minded, you very well might end up meeting someone nice and having a great relationship." Successful Singles: Word-of-Mouth Has Been Its Best Advertising ToolWhen Ron started Successful Singles 35 years ago, he didn't think he'd still be matchmaking all these years later, but the company has built a sterling reputation across New England — without even doing much advertising. Successful Singles relies mainly on its satisfied clients telling their friends, family, coworkers, and acquaintances about the company. That also contributes to the high quality of its clientele; members recommend like-minded people to sign up for the services. "Most people know us, and word-of-mouth has been our number one advertising tool over our 30 years in business," Ron said. Ron and Roberta also don't reach out to potential clients or recruit members. If singles have an interest in matchmaking, they can connect with the company. That ensures everyone who uses Successful Singles wants to be there, and nobody is hesitant about meeting partners through a matchmaker. "We look for a very select portion of the dating market. If someone's a good fit for us, great. If they're not, they're usually not interested in matchmaking to begin with," Roberta told us. The dating landscape has changed a lot over the years, but Successful Singles clients still want the same thing: a long-term relationship with a compatible partner. Ron and Roberta want mature singles to know that finding a relationship is still possible. "They wonder 'Are there nice men or women out there?' People can get disillusioned with dating, but the message is that there are nice people out there," Ron said. "There are people who really want a relationship. There are people like you."  |
| Dating app, text messages fuel Day 1 of Clay Conaway rape trial - The News Journal Posted: 16 Sep 2019 11:13 AM PDT CLOSE  Reporter Xerxes Wilson breaks down what to expect in the trial of former UD pitcher Clay Conaway, who is accused of rape or attempted rape of six women. Jenna Miller and Xerxes Wilson, Delaware News Journal The first few hours of Clay Conaway's trial on a first-degree rape charge may have started off slowly, but it quickly escalated into X-rated descriptions of private conversations. This case is the first in possibly six trials that Conaway could face for several rape-related charges. During opening arguments against Conaway, a former University of Delaware baseball player, his attorney Natalie Woloshin went into graphic detail about text messages and sentiments shared between one of the women and her closest friends. BACKGROUND: Why former UD pitcher Clay Conaway, charged with 6 rapes, could face six trials Woloshin quoted text conversations that spanned from the time that this woman, who was 20 years old last summer, matched with Conaway on the dating app Bumble until their encounter at his home in Georgetown. Through the description, Woloshin attempted to show how the woman accusing Conaway of raping and injuring her may have consented to her interactions with the now 23-year-old man. "She wanted a sex life," Woloshin said, referring to texts between the woman and a close friend in the days leading up to her meet-up with Conaway. "She was struggling without sex." Bumble is a dating app that requires the woman to initiate contact, Woloshin explained, unlike other apps, like Tinder. After initial conversations through the app, Conaway and the woman used the social media platform Snapchat to communicate before meeting for the first time on the evening of June 20, 2018, when Conaway's parents were out of town shopping for a car. Conaway lives in a barn separate from the main house in Georgetown. "She knew he was on Bumble to hook up. She knew he wasn't looking for a relationship," Woloshin said. "And with all this, she willingly drove over to Clay Conaway's house. So, was the plan really to watch a movie?" Prosecutor Casey Ewart said in her opening statement that the woman had joined dating apps like Bumble and Tinder after getting out of a long-term relationship, and that she thought she was going over Conaway's house "just to hang out." "More messages show that even as she was on her way, she wasn't quite sure she could go through with it," Ewart said. "She set clear boundaries with him ahead of time." The case hinges on whether the woman consented to sexual intercourse with Conaway, and whether it resulted in injuries. Ewart described the woman as "so frightened while this was going on that she froze." She said what had started as consensual kissing and cuddling escalated into Conaway removing her clothes and tampon and ultimately forcing unwanted sexual intercourse. The woman had a panic attack during the encounter, she said. "She told the defendant multiple times to stop," Ewart said. "He ignored her and kept going." While male DNA was found through swabs taken at a local hospital that night, Ewart said it was not a large enough sample to compare to anyone. But a swab taken from the woman's stomach did detect sperm cells, which Ewart said a medical expert will testify as highly unlikely to come from anyone other than Conaway. Woloshin described other text messages between the woman and her friends that talked about the woman's loneliness, excitement that she matched with a University of Delaware athlete on Bumble and her physical attraction to Conaway. "He's so hot I'm screaming," one of the texts read by Woloshin said. "I need me a mans and I need me a sex life," another read by Woloshin said. As his defense attorney described more texts that talked about the photographs shared of Conaway's body, including his penis and its perceived size, Conaway sat at the defense table in a heather gray suit and quietly put on his black-framed eyeglasses. Both attorneys said there are a number of contradictions and omissions in each side's story, but Woloshin reminded the jury that it is ultimately up to the state to prove Conaway's guilt without a reasonable doubt in order to convict him of first-degree rape. That felony charge comes with a minimum sentence of 15 years to life in prison. After the opening statements, attorneys argued whether the state will be allowed to call a third expert witness to testify. Another Conaway attorney, Joseph Hurley, is arguing that the state missed its deadline to let the parties know they'd be calling another expert. That expert is an emergency room doctor from Beebe Medical Center who diagnosed the woman with muscle strain in her hips two days after her encounter with Conaway, and reportedly linked the injury to that incident. Woloshin said Conaway will testify in his defense, to explain why he omitted some parts of the story during his interview with police because he was embarrassed. After his arrest, he was interviewed at Delaware State Police Troop 4 where his father previously worked as a state trooper. The woman accusing Conaway of first-degree rape is expected to testify Tuesday. It is unclear how long the trial will last, but the court has scheduled it to run into next week. Conaway could face five other trials for varying charges of second-degree rape, attempted rape and strangulation involving five other women between 2013 and 2018. Sussex County Superior Court Judge Richard Stokes ruled earlier this year that the cases should be tried separately to avoid bias and ensure a fair trial. "Whether a defendant raped others in other situation(s) is not relevant to whether the particular alleged victims consented to sexual intercourse with the defendant," Stokes wrote in that decision. Conaway has pleaded not guilty to all charges. Reporter Xerxes Wilson contributed to this story. Contact reporter Maddy Lauria at (302) 345-0608, mlauria@delawareonline.com or on Twitter @MaddyinMilford. Read or Share this story: https://www.delawareonline.com/story/news/2019/09/16/clay-conaway-faces-first-possibly-six-trials-rape-charges/2234519001/  |
Lori Mendelsohn is a matchmaker in the Milwaukee area. Her business is www.smartfunnysingle and she has over a dozen marriages under her belt with one engagement pending. She uses her intuition and knowledge of the human condition to match singles.| You are subscribed to email updates from "local dating" - Google News. To stop receiving these emails, you may unsubscribe now. | Email delivery powered by Google |
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